Saturday, June 27, 2015

Sara Dohner-Harrison, July 15, 1959 - June 27, 2015

I lost my wife of eight years today - We were together for over twenty. She has been struggling with multiple health issues her whole life, but the last year has been extremely difficult. Still her passing was completely unexpected. Though I could never get her to paint 'little men' as she called them she was an amazing artist...


She did help me build terrain, would listen to endless prattle about the difference between dragoons and cuirassiers, and never asked why I ordered a pile of Napoleonic cavalry when all these Orks were scattered around the house. We moved several times over the years and she always made sure one room in our home was designated as the 'game room'. She was absurdly proud of my work Beneath the Lily Banners, Republic to Empire, and Donnybrook and never begrudged the hours I spent tucked away in my office working on these books or painting models.

She was truly my best friend and I have no idea how life goes forward. I am suspending posting for a time, but I will be back. I suspect this hobby will become an even bigger part of my life and Sara would want it that way...

34 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry. She sounds like a wonderful person.

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  2. Condolences to you and your family.

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  3. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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  4. So sorry to hear of your loss. You've written a lovely tribute.

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  5. So sorry to hear of your loss. You've written a lovely tribute.

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  6. Man that's horrible. Sorry for your loss. :-(

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  7. So sorry to hear of your loss.
    These are the only words I have ever found some comfort in.

    Death is nothing at all.
    I have only slipped away to the next room.
    I am I and you are you.
    Whatever we were to each other,
    That, we still are.

    Call me by my old familiar name.
    Speak to me in the easy way
    which you always used.
    Put no difference into your tone.
    Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

    Laugh as we always laughed
    at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
    Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
    Let my name be ever the household word
    that it always was.
    Let it be spoken without effect.
    Without the trace of a shadow on it.

    Life means all that it ever meant.
    It is the same that it ever was.
    There is absolute unbroken continuity.
    Why should I be out of mind
    because I am out of sight?

    I am but waiting for you.
    For an interval.
    Somewhere. Very near.
    Just around the corner.

    All is well.

    All the best,
    H

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    1. Thank you very much... I will cherish these verses.

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  8. What a wonderful tribute. So sad for your loss, Clarence. She's sounds like a true soulmate.

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  9. So sorry to hear your sad news. It must have been a shattering shock, but don't lose heart.

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  10. Sorry to hear about that. I lost my dad last weekend, and the only thing I can say is to grieve however, whereever, and as long as you need to. You've got my condolences and prayers. And let me know if you need anything. Us Virginia gamers have to stick together.

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  11. So sorry to hear this news Clarence. My thoughts are with you.

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  12. So sorry, that is heart-breaking news. Its difficult for me to say anything that I think will be meaningful but for what its worth I wish you well.

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  13. My heartfelt condolences. My wife is a supportive non-gamer too, and I can't imagine loosing her. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  14. Really sorry for your loss, no words can describe someones feelings when this happens, I just hope you´ll feel better someday & begin posting here anew.

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  15. You have my deepest condolences. Continue living you life at its fullest and fight even harder. I'm sure that's what she would have wanted.

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  16. Very tragic news, I hope you have some good friends and family to turn to.

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  17. Thinking of you and your loss.

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  18. That's awful news mate. She was clearly an amazing person, even from what little we've read here. We're all thinking of you right now!

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  19. It's really sad to hear of your tragic loss, it's always the good ones we lose :(

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  20. My condolences at your loss, she sounded like the perfect partner any gamer would wish for, that piece of art at the start of this sad post is beatiful, she will live on in your heart and in her art forever.

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  21. I can't even imagine this happening. My deepest condolences.

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  22. So sorry for your loss.

    I have spent the last 3 days reading your blog from the beginning and then click on this bomb shell for you.

    I hope you find your peace with this tragic loss soon.

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  23. I've been reading your posts for a while now but this is my first comment here.

    Just want you to know that I'm truly sorry for your loss, she sounds like a very special woman and a true partner in life.

    Your lives have both been richer for the time that you had together and I hope you can find comfort in that.

    I give you my deepest condolences.

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  24. My deepest condolences on your loss.
    Derek.

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  25. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.
    For what it's worth, you'll be in my prayers.

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  26. A really SAD news to read. My sincere condolences.

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  27. So sorry for your loss. Words fail me.

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  28. I'm so sorry man, this is heartbreaking. My condolences... no words.

    Hope you'll return with your post about Oldhammer (I like more the fantasy one); as you say, something to be proud of.

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  29. Clarence,
    i've never posted here before, but i've been an admirer of your work for some time. For what it's worth, I want you to know that your art has enriched my life, and brought happiness to me every time I visit your blog. It sounds like you and your wife had the same effect upon one another. I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to you. Never lose hope.

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  30. I just found your blog today, searching for the RT picture of an open-topped walker, and delighted in the rest of what I've found...save for the most recent post. I cannot imagine (or, more honestly, I flinch from imagining) what you are going through, and at best I can offer condolences and sympathy. What little advice I can give is this: keep working, keep creating. I have seen others go through similar straits, and it was finding that purpose - even when it seemed to be gone - that kept them persevering.

    (Also, I love your close reading of RT, and the Jokaero!)

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